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The end of autumn and the beginning of winter is upon us. This is the time of year, as the trees go dormant, the days get shorter, and the nights are longer, and in the Northern hemisphere, the snow begins to blanket the ground. For many of us, this is a time for reflection: looking at where we’ve been, what we’ve done, and where we would like to go. It is the time of the year that people look toward what they would like to do. Who they would like to become and the resolutions that they are about to make going into 2026…

I took on the challenge of an online university course to learn Spanish. Speed Spanish, twelve lessons in 6 weeks. I have not studied anything academic for over 30 years. In fact, I have never done a university course as I went to college to become a Medical Laboratory Technologist in my 20’s.

I was always a straight A student, that did her homework and handed it in on time. I was very academically successful in high school and college. Languages were never my strength, I was a math and sciences type of gal. So, this course was a challenge to say the least and it brought up a lot of internal introspection. From my depths, came the perfectionism, the fear of failure, that inkling of self-doubt, that little voice that says “what if I am not good enough”. What have I got myself into?…

We live in a world that applauds busyness, where productivity is worn like a badge of honour and stillness is often mistaken for laziness. But here’s the truth I’ve learned through both coaching and lived experience: wellness isn’t found in how much you do,  it’s found in how aligned you feel while doing it.

When we drift out of alignment with what truly matters, we can feel it in our bodies first. The shoulders tighten, the breath shortens, the mind spins. We push through, telling ourselves, “I’m fine,” but inside, the pressure quietly builds. That’s not weakness, that’s information. It’s your body’s way of saying, something’s out of sync!

Wellness as Alignment

Wellness is not a destination, it’s an inner state of coherence between body, mind, and purpose. When your nervous system is …

Our relationships are more than just a part of life, they are a foundation for our well-being. But there’s something I have learned over and over again: authentic connection always begins on the inside.

Internal safety matters. When we feel safe in our own skin, we are able to show up fully with others. Internal safety is that grounded feeling that says, “I can be myself here.” It’s the nervous system’s way of letting us relax, listen, and engage without the need to mask, perform, or protect. Without it, our relationships can feel strained or surface-level. We might overextend ourselves, keep quiet about our needs, or go into autopilot just to “get through.” That not only takes a toll on our energy but also keeps us from experiencing the depth of connection we truly crave.

As I write this, I am having a “terribly horribly no good  very bad day”, Thanks Judith Viorst for that pithy title that captures days like today.  It is a day of emails gone missing, printer not working, mixed up communication and a feeling of vast imperfection. Very frustrating. Yet I know in the midst of feeling frazzled there is a bigger picture. I know there is a calm, lovable person inside these many feelings of frustration. But how do I find her? How do you find that lighter side of your self when storms are brewing in your life.  There are many ways to create movement when feeling stuck. The key is to cultivate the knowing that this is possible.

From the outside, everything looks polished.

You manage your work, show up for your family, keep things running smoothly, and even remember to pack snacks or send birthday cards. People describe you as grounded, capable, and calm under pressure.

But inside? You’re running on adrenaline and spreadsheets. Your mind races at night, your patience thins by mid-afternoon, and you’re quietly bracing yourself to hold it together – again.

This is a familiar story among the women